Adam Kirsch recently
published a series of articles in Tablet magazine (here, here, and here). One article, ‘Why Taking Vows Is a Wicked Act,’
raises questions about how ‘taking a vow’ might not be such a good idea. Kirsch delves into the Talmud’s Tractate
Nedarim, which is devoted to oaths, vows, and the problems associated with them
from the rabbinical point of view. He
quotes both Ecclesiastes and Rabbi Meir, both of whom believe it is better not
to take a vow at all. Why not?
The Bible insists that a
vow, once taken, must be kept: “When a man takes a vow to the Lord, or swears
an oath to bind his soul with a bond, he shall not profane his word; he shall
do according to all that proceeds out of his mouth,” says Numbers 30:2. But Ecclesiastes says, “Do not let your mouth
lead you into sin” (Ecclesiastes 5:6).
One reason not to take a vow
is that by doing so, you potentially set yourself up for failure by, according
to the Talmud, placing “a stumbling-block” in your own way. These obstacles encourage people to use
dishonest methods to get out of their vows; it is in the making of the vow,
then, that leads you into the sin of dishonesty.
This led the rabbis to
decide that the courts should not punish people for trying to get out of their
vows with bad excuses. In order to teach
people not to take vows lightly, they would often try to provide a better
excuse to dissolve the vow, on the theory that a person wouldn’t have made the
vow in the first place if they could foresee the unintended consequences
resulting from it (think of Herod’s vow in Mark 6:17-24 to give ‘whatever you
wish’ to his wife’s daughter only to realize it would mean the end of John the
Baptist).
Kirsch tells us the
following story: ‘In Nedarim 22b, we hear about the time Rabbi Shimon came
before the sages asking for the dissolution of a vow. However, when the sages offered him various
ways out, he kept refusing them: “They said to him: Did you vow with the
knowledge of this particular fact? He
said: Yes.” This happened over and over
again, so that the sages had to puzzle over the case all day long – “from sun
to shade, and again from shade to sun.”
Finally, a rabbi called Botnit came up with an ingenious solution. Would Shimon have made the vow if he had
known that dissolving it would cause so much trouble to the rabbis? No, Shimon said, and so the rabbis dissolved
the vow.’
The Talmud makes clear that
it will go to great lengths to release a Jew from a vow, rather than force him
to break the vow and commit a sin.
But what about those times
when someone makes a vow for us in our name?
Consider Samson. It was the angel of the Lord who told
Samson’s mother, “Now be careful not to drink wine or strong drink, or to eat
anything unclean, for you shall conceive and bear a son. No razor is to come on his head, for the boy
shall be a nazirite to God from birth.”
As the story progresses, it becomes clear that Samson has none of these
vows in mind as he tears apart a lion, bashes the Philistines up and down Gaza,
and enjoyed a seven-day wedding feast.
The one vow he does keep,
‘his whole secret,’ the one he keeps literally until the end, has everything to do with his
hair: “If my head were shaved, then my strength would leave me; I would become
weak, and be like anyone else.” Susan
Niditch points out that ‘the “hair growing” aspect of the Nazirite vow is
central to the narrative, its plot, its hero’s characterization, and its
central themes.’[i] Samson seems aware that the source of his
great strength lies in his hair. The
other vows – the ones not made by Samson for himself – matter little to him and
to the story. So, in essence, when the
writer of Judges associated ‘the Nazirite vow’ with Samson, it was really just
a plot device to help build a contrast between nature and culture, and had
nothing to do with vows per se at all.
And yet, in Numbers 6:1-21,
the Bible goes out of its way to provide the legislation for Nazirite
behavior. In fact, this is the only
place where the Bible mentions taking a vow to become a Nazirite. Two questions arise for me, then: were
Nazirite vows different from any other kind of Biblical vow, and are vows in
the Bible different than modern-day vows?
Short answer: No and Yes.
Tony Cartledge did some work[ii] and
concluded that Nazirite vows, like most Biblical vows, ‘were most likely
conditional promises of special service,’ of the ‘if you do this, Lord, then I
will do that’ variety. For example, in
Genesis 28:20-21, “Jacob made a vow, saying, ‘If God will be with me, and will
keep me in this way that I go, and will give me bread to eat and clothing to
wear, so that I come again to my father’s house in peace, then the Lord shall
be my God.”
In 2 Samuel 15:8, Absalom
said to the king, “If the Lord will indeed bring me back to Jerusalem,
then I will worship the Lord in Hebron.”
Other Biblical vows were
made under duress during war time:
In Numbers 21:2, “Israel made a
vow to the Lord and said, ‘If you will indeed give this people into our hands,
then we will utterly destroy their towns.’”
And in Judges 11:30-31, Jephthah
made a vow to the Lord, and said, “If you will give the Ammonites into my hand,
then whoever comes out of the doors of my house to meet me, when I return
victorious from the Ammonites, shall be the Lord’s, to be offered up by me as a
burnt-offering.” Talk about unintended
consequences: the first one out the door to greet him was his daughter. Do you think Jephthah might have wanted to
take that vow back?
Some vows are masked
somewhat. Psalm 35 includes a petition
that says, basically, “Rescue me and then I will thank thee, Lord!” Essentially, though, in the Bible, promises
were made conditionally in the prospect of receiving an answered prayer.
Today, we think of vows as
binding promises, solemn and unbreakable.
The Canadian Mounted Police vow to always get their man and they do,
because they will not rest until the goal is reached. Institutionally, we understand modern vows,
for example, wedding vows, to be unconditional.
Our understanding of vows is shaped by societal and cultural
forces. No one today would make a vow
like Jephthah’s and if they did, they would probably work pretty hard to avoid
fulfilling it.
On the other, every day,
people vow to stay together “for better or worse, for richer and poorer, in
sickness and in health” unconditionally and just as often, they break their
vows and/or dissolve the marriage union.
So when we debate issues
such as who is entitled to marry whom, or whether the enacted law ought to be
defined by those who wrote it or by those who interpret it, perhaps we ought to
consider the unintended consequences of any kind of vow-taking. After all, as Adam Kirsch points out, a vow
is a promise to go above and beyond, to make a personal sacrifice in the name of
God. Are you ready for that?
[i] Susan
Niditch, “Samson as Culture Hero, Trickster, and Bandit: The Empowerment of the
Weak,” Catholic Biblical Quarterly 52 (1990), 612. Gregory Mobley expands on this. He writes that Samson becomes alienated from
God “only when he allows himself to be domesticated;” that is, as long as he
maintains his connection to nature in the form of his uncut hair, he is
connected to God. “The Wild Man in the
Bible and the Ancient Near East,” Journal of Biblical Literature 116/2 (1997),
230.
[ii] Tony W.
Cartledge, “Were Nazirite Vows Unconditional?” Catholic Biblical Quarterly 51
(1989). He further concluded that
Samson, who had made no vow of his own, was paying a debt incurred by his
mother.
Hmmmm. Sounds like we need to be super careful in making promises (vows) by examining the language out of the context in which they were spoken so that we don't become breakers of our word when unintended consequences jump forward. Or, we could solve the problem by never taking vows nor making promises, but I don't want to live in that world.
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